10 March 2008 ~ 28 Comments

Anger, Hurt, Hope

Wow.  Long day today.  Led worship in the morning.  Also gave the message.  Jumped in my car and drove to SoCal (in 5.5 hours…impressive) to be with one friend in particular, but several as well walking through some horrible stuff.  Spent lots of time with people praying in homes tonight like I haven’t prayed in a long time.  It’s now almost 3 am, and I’m finally about to sleep.

I’m assuming this is blogable as it was announced at Revolution Church.  If I’m mistaken, I’m sure I’ll be told and you won’t see this post for long.
Some of you have joined me on this blog in the past year, while a number of you started reading when I was at Revolution Church.  This is a faith community I was a part of for over 2 1/2 years, coming onboard 9 months into it’s existence.  I still am intimately connected with many people there.  It is a family I love dearly, and while I know I am where God has called me, I have also had days of missing them intensely.  I love them a lot.

And now their world has been turned upside down in so many ways.  This week it was announced that the pastor, a former friend of mine, has left his wife to be with another married woman from the congregation.  I caught wind of the situation early on Friday, and in many ways it has consumed my thoughts and my energy this weekend.  As the title of this post suggests, the three major emotions to hit right off the bat were anger, hurt, and oddly enough, hope.

Angry that two people could be so selfish.
Angry that the body of Christ gets another black eye.
Angry that a ministry that so many people, myself included, have poured so much of their heart and soul into is being severely damaged by the choices of a few.
Lots of anger for an unrepentant, uncaring "friend" who seems to have lost his mind.
Anger that there are Christians young in their walk closely involved whose faith will be challenged in huge ways.

Hurting for the multiple kids from both families who are losing their parents.
Hurting for a husband and a wife who really are, in this case, two of the most amazing people you’ll ever meet.
Hurting for extended family involved who I am very close to.
Hurting for a faith community that is going to have to walk through a very dark season.
Feeling personally hurt in some weird way that a man I trusted and called a friend and a partner in ministry would be capable of the things he’s doing.

Yet in the midst of all that, I also feel hopeful.
I have hope because I know Christ is still on the throne.
Hope because God is in control, even when things seem like things are spinning out of control.
Hope as I watch that church family rally around the innocent family members to care for them.  To watch their kids.  To pray for them.  To love on them.
Hope that as this church goes through these trials they will come out the other end far healthier and stronger than they ever were before.
Hope because I see a leadership team already in place that loves Jesus and is going to lead incredibly through this crisis.
Hope that what Satan means for evil, God will use for good.

Revolution family, stay strong.  You are an amazing community where God is still at work.  Revolution was never a movement about following one man, it was always about following one God.  And He’s still God.  Trust in Jesus.  I truly believe he will use this in mighty ways.

And the rest of ya, please say a prayer for that community.  That God would bring about restoration and healing in the lives of that church and the families involved.  Thanks a ton.  I know the leadership appreciates it.

28 Responses to “Anger, Hurt, Hope”

  1. cooler 2 June 2010 at 12:41 pm Permalink

    very good good this article deserves nothing hahaha just joking :P nice publish :P

  2. Garrick D. Conner 4 April 2008 at 11:22 pm Permalink

    I too hurt for this congregation and all those so deeply affected. Let’s keep them in our prayers.

  3. Tom P. 18 March 2008 at 4:41 pm Permalink

    I just found out what happened last night when a member of my old LG called. I have been living in Atlanta for a while, but I will be returning to LB next month. I am devistated. I am just stunned and confused. I think being away has made it too easy to be in denial. The only other time I have felt like this was after Hurricane Andrew destroyed my neighborhood. That same feeling as I stood there and first saw all the damage. The same stunned, sad and horrified feeling, except this one cuts the core of my soul. Wow. This will not destroy my faith, because my faith is anchored by God, not man. Anyway, hope will return and God will prevail. I will be praying for all involved. God is truly greater than this.

  4. Lynnae 12 March 2008 at 10:59 pm Permalink

    Bobby it meant so much to us that you came down. Thank you so much for being there for me and my husband. Having everyone in our living room made me feel so at peace and I actually got to sleep that night. You driving here after church when you have your own family to take care of spoke volumes. Thanks so much for your friendship and we more so think of you as family. Sorry you had to meet Brielyn on such a dark day but I’m glad you got to meet her regardless. We love you guys. Thanks again!
    P.S. I’ll be sending you your sunglasses.

  5. Chris 12 March 2008 at 5:43 am Permalink

    Wow….I’m so sorry to hear about all of this. I’m a pastor and hearing about this just took the breath out of me. I’ll definitely be praying for you all.

  6. Ben 11 March 2008 at 8:47 pm Permalink

    Wow. Excellent post Bobby. Just what I’m sure many in that community needed. Prayed and praying.

  7. Aaron 11 March 2008 at 8:12 pm Permalink

    I don’t know you man, but I heard of the happenings and my heart is broken. We are praying for your church, community, and for those involved.

  8. klampert 11 March 2008 at 6:23 am Permalink

    Wow…bobby so sorry to hear this…I will be praying for that church his family and also you …I pray Gods peace for you buddy

  9. James 10 March 2008 at 11:19 pm Permalink

    This is hard to take, man. Sorry to hear of such a fall. But you are right in what you say – God’s hope is more powerful than we can realize. It defeat despair. In the midst of this, I pray that the church will find God’s hope to be unifying and strengthening.
    If I may be brazen enough to add something here as well…in addition to all the prayers for the church family and the immediate family, the two individuals concerned need prayer as well, more than ever. Pray for them too. I hope didn’t overstep a boundary with that comment.

  10. whitney 10 March 2008 at 10:59 pm Permalink

    wow, bobby. that story brought chills to my body. Im sorry to hear all of that. You personally are amazing for sticking with them through this. That church will definitely be in my prayers. Definitely. So will you. Stay strong, and you’re right, He is one God and he WILL prevail.
    have faith, stay strong.

  11. Rachel 10 March 2008 at 10:58 pm Permalink

    I am so thankful to have you as my husband. You are amazing and I love you so much!

  12. alex mclean 10 March 2008 at 10:56 pm Permalink

    wow Bobby… saw yer tweet about coming to LB – never did I dream it would be because of this. We will definitely be praying for you and the church. My heart is sad…

  13. beth 10 March 2008 at 9:52 pm Permalink

    Great to chat today! You are a part of this church family and it was great to have you down here. I feel the heartbeat of this church and it is pumping strong.

  14. Rich Kirkpatrick 10 March 2008 at 9:50 pm Permalink

    You are a righteous man my friend. Stay strong and I am blessed to know you. No words can console, I am sure, but still I must say you character shines and what you have built will last.

  15. Chris 10 March 2008 at 7:59 pm Permalink

    Hey Bobby – sorry to hear that. What a brutal story.

  16. Jeni 10 March 2008 at 6:56 pm Permalink

    Bobby… you’re an amazing guy and I feel blessed to have you as a leader, pastor, and someone I can look up to. Your heart for people and God astound me. I’ll be praying for this church for sure.

  17. Michele Salas 10 March 2008 at 6:15 pm Permalink

    Hi Bobby !
    Carlos and I have the picture postcard you guys sent us at Christmas on our fridge. You have a beautiful family.
    One thing I hope everyone gains from all this, is greatfullness and appreciation for what we have, and the blessings God has given us. It can all be taken away in an instant.
    The scars will be deep and lasting for many.
    We love you, Rachel and Caleb. Thanks for your words and support.

  18. Ed 10 March 2008 at 6:12 pm Permalink

    I totally can relate. A similar incident happened at the church I grew up in. When I was about 12 or 13, the pastors wife had a relationship with one of the deacons. Something you would never imagine. I remember being confused about it all but being so young, I didn’t really see the hope in it all. The pastor stepped down and he and his wife reconciled but it was really tough on the whole community. It has been 25 or so years and they are still together. God’s grace does things we can’t comprehend….

  19. richie 10 March 2008 at 4:40 pm Permalink

    hey bobby…
    miss you man.

  20. Matt 10 March 2008 at 3:58 pm Permalink

    That’s so sad. Hang in there bro…I’m praying for you guys & the Revolution folks.

  21. jason the parks 10 March 2008 at 1:06 pm Permalink

    Bobby, thanks for making it down to Rev. My heart goes out to you and the church, who is going through a serious trial.
    Christ IS INDEED bigger than the decisions of few!
    Miss you bud, hope all is well.
    Jason Parks, fellow 24 fan

  22. Phil 10 March 2008 at 12:30 pm Permalink

    Thanks for your attention and commitment to us still back here in So Cal. I’m heartbroken for both of the families involved here… so many kids screwed over…
    I don’t think I have ever participated in worship with such fire and intensity as yesterday.
    However, I echo your sense of hope. The more I have talked this over with LG-mates, the more hopeful I become. It’s almost like we get a reboot. Same systems in place, but a deep breath and a fresh start. Pull back and focus a little.
    Mind still blown, though.

  23. Billy Chia 10 March 2008 at 12:24 pm Permalink

    Wow, I’m really sorry to hear this. I’m praying for them. I’m also praying for you and your pastor – that God would protect you guys.

  24. kimmie 10 March 2008 at 11:59 am Permalink

    Thanks for coming down Bobby. Although we didn’t see you I am just thankful for your partnership in all this.

  25. stephanie 10 March 2008 at 11:39 am Permalink

    it’s mind-blowing how destructive the actions of two individuals can be…
    praying constantly for everyone involved!!

  26. angelina 10 March 2008 at 9:46 am Permalink

    i am definitely praying.

  27. Steph 10 March 2008 at 8:18 am Permalink

    we’re here with you bobby, praying that the restoration and comfort of the Holy Spirit would sweep through all those in the church who are in need of His tenderness right now. Let me know if there’s anything else I can do.

  28. annalynn 10 March 2008 at 7:43 am Permalink

    hey bobby…
    *sigh* this whole thing has hit me pretty hard. reading your blog, put all these strange emotions i’ve been feeling, into perspective… you hit the nail right on the head with all 3 of those emotions.
    i looked up to that man. he baptized me, he helped me understand God more, and he helped guide me in the right direction when i felt my life was going sideways. i can’t say that i still do. nor can i say that i ever will.
    revolution church has lost a great leader, but with every loss – there’s always something to gain, right?
    anyway – sorry for the long comment. i miss you guys! say hi to rachel and caleb.

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